Explain how you try to listen and help only to have your advice ignored or discounted.
Suggest how you may have unintentionally reinforced a message that these behaviors are okay because you have tolerated the pattern, which has benefitted neither of you.
We find in these scenarios a good person with an innate desire to help others.
Professionally, being accommodating has benefits as you are seen as someone who can tackle challenging assignments and others can approach for support.
If possible, suggest other avenues and resources they can consider, or other individuals to whom they can go for support.
In the meantime, let them know of new directions you are taking which will limit the time you can devote to supporting them. You cannot easily back out of relationships and plans that you accommodated yourself into. Griffith is Associate Faculty at Indiana University School of Public and Environmental Affairs where he teaches negotiations and alternative dispute resoluti...
Also, decide how you will say "no" politely, yet firmly to communicate that you will not take on new projects under the same set of circumstances as you did before.
I draw a line quickly and if you cross it, well that’s it for our relationship. As an adult, I have grown to believe that things are not random, that people are in my life for a reason.