The rest of the book focuses on how to avoid such negative effects and, beginning with chapter 4, it focuses on godly love.
Harris accurately points out that Christ said if we love Him, we will obey Him.
It often mistakes a physical relationship for love.
A later chapter talks about looking up “love” in God’s dictionary to see what it should entail.
It’s about dating with a purpose.” So despite what might appear to be a prejudice against any kind of dating by the first book’s title, the book is really about avoiding the of dating. The first chapter deals with the importance of doing what is good, not just doing whatever good.
So if his first book is not really against all dating, what’s the point? Having a series of short-term relationships that include physical intimacy not only means you give away part of your heart to many partners before marriage, it also sets up a person to view marriage as a potential short-term relationship instead of the lifelong commitment God intended (Matthew 19:6).
So true love always expresses itself as obedience to Christ and service to others.
As dating practices from the 1960s on became more focused on physical intimacy before marriage, authors familiar with Scripture began to draw attention to the fact that modern dating practices were going against God’s Word.Chapter 2 gets to the heart of what’s wrong with the typical dating scene by focusing on the negative tendencies of defective dating—that is, dating the way most people have done it for decades.