Dating someone in your group of friends
On the flip side, when we rekindled the flame after college, our friendship and the friendship between our families became one of the best parts about our more-than-friendship.We had a shared history, our siblings adored each other and we even went on a few joint-family vacations.Love at first sight (or inbox message) does exist once in a while.Hollywood has built an entire industry on the line “You had me at hello.” That being said, creating real closeness with someone usually takes time.
He made me laugh a lot, but I was very suspicious of him. And he was a white boy with a slight country accent who drove a pick-up truck.I assumed he’d be more into a woman who reminded him of Taylor Swift.Ashley: We hooked up for a semester in college, then spent about two years being mostly just friends again while he did an internship in NY (I was still based in Indiana) then moved to Seattle.He asked if anybody wanted to go four-wheeling, and I said I did. Kelly: She didn’t really know it was supposed to be a date. Ashley: I’m bisexual, and if this were true, I wouldn’t have any friends. And I have been attracted to most of them at some point or another, just not in a way that I could or wanted to sustain. Kelly: I think that viewing relationships as an inevitable thing that happens between two people who are attracted to each other takes away from the emotional vulnerability, and work, that goes into building strong commitments.
Ashley: The second time around, after he’d lived in Seattle, he just showed up on my doorstep and kissed me. Also, it really doesn’t say much for platonic friendship if you can only be friends with people you aren’t attracted to.They are both in it and that’s where they want to be. Trust in yourself that you’ll know when someone isn’t who he or she says they are.