Indian girl dating black guy
Like Bernard, the guys I've dated have all had wild aspirations. There was the music producer, the impassioned civil rights activist and so on and so forth.
The white guys I dated were often encouraged to be themselves growing up.
You can't make a judgement for ALL Indian girls based on a few examples of your cousins?? This is why you suck with women, not because of race.
If it's easier for you to be mad at white men and Indian girls rather than work on yourself, so be it - enjoy the delusion but you'll be enjoying it alone. Not saying that's right, by any means, but the traditional Indian family wouldn't want a black / oriental person.
In the Indian-American households I've both grown up in and dropped in on, those expectations often were, "My one cousin just graduated from Columbia Law School. D at Columbia in International Affairs and another who's finishing up his residency in Internal Medicine.
None of these instances are accidents or coincidences; they are the result of long, drawn-out conversations about what's worth pursuing and what isn't."What about dentistry? I was 16 and we were throwing around potential career ideas for me. You could try it out and see if it's for you."I briefly considered her suggestion, but knew it wasn't my style.
According to the Pew Research Center, 40.6 percent of Indian-Americans over the age of 25 have graduate or professional degrees, which makes us one of the most highly educated ethnic groups in America.
I am not a "highly educated" person (well, not according to conventional standards, anyway. And I never to be; I was always the artist, the social outcast, the brown girl different from most brown guys who were on their way to pursuing a steady job and a steady income in law or medicine or business. I liked to talk about indie-pop artists; they liked to talk about which Mercedes they were saving up to buy. Simply put, brown guys and I had little-to-nothing in common besides our brown skin color. There was this brown guy named Rohit*, the first of three Indian guys I've ever dated, whom I met in college. One day, I had a beer with him while he talked my ear off about capital management and private equity.
At the end of the day, each and every one of us is conditioned to think, act and feel a certain way because of the respective ways in which we were raised.
Lol yes I will declare, from the start, a personal interest in this subject.
It is hard when you have to be twice as good as the equivalent white dude! Basically all Indian girls think they get 'extra credit' if they manage to get with a white guy.
Sometimes referred to as "internalized racism," it's the allegation that you believe the stereotypes that the world has created of your own kind, so you resist your own kind. Until that happens, I'm going to keep doing what I've always done. And I'll tell you this: I'm certainly not the only girl who struggles with cultural identity and self-acceptance.
Well, I suppose I resist my own kind because of two things: all the bad dates I've been on with brown men and the fact that I'm not into my culture's idea of what a pristine Indian man "should" be like (ie. We live in a world where interracial dating is more widely accepted than ever before. This struggle I have is also an immigrant struggle.
Bernard and I never got together, but he ended up setting a precedent for many of the guys I found myself attracted to as I got older.