Online dating widowed people
The night arrives, and you tell your partner to relax with a nice glass of wine, Boone’s Farm, preferably. ” You smirk, eat the rest of your dinner, and the two of you decide to watch a movie on the couch. Shut up and enjoy the fact that they can enjoy a night with you, doing activities that THEY enjoy.
You’ve selected a 2015 Strawberry Hill, as its gasoline-like bouquet compliments the carbon-rich flavor of the macaroni you are about to burn. Appreciate that they had an enjoyable experience in the past, and that you are not replicating another person, but rather, allowing them to be remembered in a happy way.
My question is this – does this apply to widowers as well or is it fair to give him a little more time and just get busy with other things so I don’t put pressure on him?
He says he has always taken it slow in dating and this is nothing new.
If said widow also shows an interest, buckle up, because it’s going to be interesting.
Here are four things that are somewhat unique to dating or being in a relationship to a widow or widower.
I want to see more of him at this point (3 months,) especially on Saturday nights.The two of you will be at a restaurant, let’s say Applebee’s, because you both enjoy the finer things in life.The evening is going well; you both smile as you discuss the day's events with each other over your cheese sticks.But this is the norm for widowers —for one of two reasons: either the marriage itself wasn’t that healthy and he was immediately ready to move on, OR, like men of a certain age, he put everything had into his marriage and nothing into any other relationships. As such, you are presumably the first woman he’s been with for many years.
So when a woman survives her husband, she’s got a circle of friends from the neighborhood, from work, from her card game, from her book club, from her salsa classes. Regardless, he dictates the terms of the relationship based on HIS needs and schedule. To his credit, he’s taking things slow, to avoid diving into another serious relationship that he may end up regretting.
Tell them “It’s OK, I get it” (but NEVER because “My dog died, so I can really identify with it”..need to elaborate), hand them a napkin, allow them the right to cry over “nothing”, and quietly listen to them while you eat your chicken wraps.