Single and not interested in dating
I've been in several years-long relationships, and in each of them, we met through mutual friends and got to know each other in casual social settings rather than more formal, one-on-one dates.Most of those kinds of dates I've gone on have been too loaded with weird expectations to really get to know the other person at all.Let me say that there is absolutely nothing wrong with those who are ready to get right back on that horse again. I also think it’s great for those who shake their head at the idea of dating and just stay away from it, for whatever reason they have.I can’t speak for other women, but my personal reasons are probably like others.I endure the former because it's necessary to get the latter. I love being in a relationship, and I'm a great girlfriend. Meeting people, seeing if there's any connection.Finding out after month the connection just wasn't there. I've never found that dating is a necessary prerequisite to being in a long-term relationship.” And surely as the tides rise and fall, when you get a divorce they’ll ask; “When are you going to start dating? Along with the occasional look of, “Mhmm, sure.” Meaning, if I could find someone to date, I would be all for it, but since I can’t…well then, I say I just don’t want to date.” Those questions can be entertaining, yet they can also be a cause of stress. Hard as it may be for some to believe, there are those of us who either aren’t ready to date or just don’t want to leap into the pool of dating, after a divorce.
I was a mom first and now, I wasn’t a wife second, I was me. So, in those few dates, I realized I wasn’t willing to give up any time with my children and any time for myself, for anyone else. And some of us may decide the single life is all we want and we may never go out and search for someone. So, the next time someone asks you if or when you’re going to start dating, look at them with a smile of confidence and say, “I don’t know if I ever will.
Even the few times I've enjoyed going on those kinds of dates with a person, we ended up not really being compatible.